I read several dozen stories a year from miserable, lonely guys who insist that women won’t come near them despite the fact that they are just the nicest guys in the world.
..I’m asking what do you offer? Are you smart? Funny? Interesting? Talented? Ambitious? Creative? OK, now what do you do to demonstrate those attributes to the world? Don’t say that you’re a nice guy — that’s the bare minimum.
“Well, I’m not sexist or racist or greedy or shallow or abusive! Not like those other douchebags!”
I’m sorry, I know that this is hard to hear, but if all you can do is list a bunch of faults you don’t have, then back the fuck away..
..Don’t complain about how girls fall for jerks; they fall for those jerks because those jerks have other things they can offer. “But I’m a great listener!” Are you? Because you’re willing to sit quietly in exchange for the chance to be in the proximity of a pretty girl (and spend every second imagining how soft her skin must be)? Well guess what, there’s another guy in her life who also knows how to do that, and he can play the guitar. Saying that you’re a nice guy is like a restaurant whose only selling point is that the food doesn’t make you sick. You’re like a new movie whose title is This Movie Is in English, and its tagline is “The actors are clearly visible”."
I’m pretty sure we’re the same person.
I think so, at least after 1L. I know a few 2L + non-law school couples (not long distance- a lot of long distance relationships broke up within the first semester of 1L).
Just some advice - do not date anywhere but OUTSIDE your law school. Please dear God - if that’s the only advice anyone ever takes from me, let that be it. DO NOT DATE INSIDE YOUR SCHOOL. Date from other schools, date a garbage man/woman, a banker, an artist, a cab driver, a dancer or even a douchebag, but do not let any of those people also be a fellow student at your school.
Be friends, be a family of choice, be study buddies or beer buddies but do not be sexy times buddies. It can get messy, you’re undoubtedly going to want to punch each other, you’ll fight, you’ll break up, you’ll sleep with someone else and it will all be stupid.
Number one rule in life - DO NOT SHIT WHERE YOU EAT. Learn it early and learn it well.
^ This is normally really solid advice, but I do know of some adorable law school couples that made it. Sexy times buddies vs. committed relationship might be the important thing. As in - yes, do not shit where you eat, but if you really really really gotta shit, fuck, you gotta.
Proud to be one of the law school (me) + non-law school (him) + long distance couples still going strong, and halfway done with law school. Yay us!